Rituals and The Reason behind them

Being a married women you have to follow few rituals for the sake of society because if you are not following them, people will make your life uneasy.

I am a great believer of Indian culture but my question is to the peoples who always create fuss over these rituals

“Do you know the reason behind it? why should I follow these rituals?”

If you ask such questions to elders they will say :

“We never asked such questions to our elders.”  or

“It is inauspicious, if you don’t follow it something bad will happen”  or

they will consider it rude because they don’t know the exact answer and they never bothered to know it.

Here is some google search reasons for the rituals followed by us :

1. Touching the feet –

When you touch the feet of an elder keeping aside your ego, then the elder accepts your shraddha or your reduced ego and their heart
emits positive vibes or thoughts and energy. We can also say that a kind of cosmic energy also released while touching the feet that connect each other’s
mind and heart. The same we can say with handshakes and hugs also

2. Wearing Jewelry –

Jewelry like toe ring, bangles, mangal sutra etc helps in improving blood circulation. Apart from this, Indian jewelry is also considered to be a matter of
great security in time of financial crisis due to its good value.

3. Navratri Fasting –

Navratri came twice in a year, both the months are the months of changing seasons. Fasting helps to cope up with weather changes.

4. Worshiping Peepal tree-

Peepal tree has not many benefits. It produces no fruits and its wood is not strong enough for any purpose, but our ancestors knew that ‘Peepal’ is one of the
very few trees (or probably the only tree) which produces oxygen even at night. So in order to save this tree because of its unique property they related it
to God/religion.

5. Ear Piercing
Piercing the ears has a great importance in Indian culture. Indian physicians and philosophers believe that piercing the ears helps in the development of intellect,
power of thinking and decision making skills.

Our ancestors are very smart people they created these rituals because they know when things are connected to religion people will be compelled to follow it but it is good not to create fuss if someone decides not to follow them especially when they don’t know the reason behind it.

Respect always come from the heart, you can’t bound anyone to respect you by forcing them to touch the feet.

This post is written for an indispire topic suggested by me :

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Repentance

Simran suddenly woke up from the screaming of the children. She could travel from the plane but opted for train journey as she loves train journey. She is travelling from Delhi to Mumbai. She has not slept from 2 nights, past week was proven as most traumatic and hectic week of her life. Simran is a renowned doctor, born and brought up in Mumbai.

Whenever Simran closes her eyes Shabana appa face come before her eyes. This would never happen if she had said something. She will never forget that night. Shabana appa was like her mother and her situation was getting better. She should not left her with that immature and untalented junior doctor. She had a doubt that he was not a qualified  doctor and there was some problem with the selection procedure of the hospital but she ignored her instinct. He handled emergency situation terribly and now Shabana appa is no more.

This post is a part of Write Over the Weekend, an initiative for Indian Bloggers by BlogAdda.’

Gadget of social skills

I pick this topic from a site whose contest timeline is over but I write the blog anyway as I like the topic. The topic is “Invent a gadget what would it do?”

I like to invent a gadget that can guide a person with the normal social skills. This gadget will help with :

1. Anger management – I really think a gadget should be invented for anger management. When anyone is bursting with anger this gadget start beeping and help them to calm down.

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2. Being polite – In certain company we have to hide our real self but habit can’t be changed easily so there this gadget will help us with it. When I am not behaving
correctly beep.

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3. Sugar Coating the truth – Lying is bad but sugar coated truth are acceptable in our society. Sometimes we became Raja Harishchandra’s great grand son and
say harsh reality to the face of the person and that innocent human being become prey of our cruel habit. At some point of time, we all are not prepared to face
the truth and one should be sensitive towards others feelings.

Disclaimer – I don’t support liars but I am victim of being outspoken, people get easily offended.

'Jill's right. 'We offer a challenging work environment' sounds better than 'Welcome to the salt mines.''

Happiness is a state of mind

This post I am writing for Indispire topic

“How happy are you? Do you look for reasons to be happy? Are smiles linked with happiness? ”

When I read this topic first line came to my mind “Happiness is a state of mind”, don’t know why because I am not much familiar to its meaning so I googled it. I read few blogs and it make me more confuse. So I came up with my own meaning and I quote it in simple sentence “It means physical things don’t give us happiness but if our mind like something we feel happy.”

People often think that certain things can make us happy like car, big house, big job etc and these things do bring happiness (obviously nobody can deny it, no matter how saint you are) but temporarily then we always look for next big thing. These are our short term goals if these are fulfilled we are happy but for short period.

Ideally one should be happy without reasons but we are not ideal people, we need reasons to be happy like the backspace button on my laptop started working again (by itself) so I am happy, my housemaid came on time makes me happy more, pet dog of my neighbor is not barking today, Govt managed to bring Mallya back to India (Their appraisals are coming soon so they are working hard now), India won cricket match again (phew..these matches give us so much tension) pinnacle of happiness, etc etc. Jokes apart there are certain things in life that you enjoy doing it and sometimes
don’t care about results, journey itself is very good, destination doesn’t matter. I believe that journey is happiness.

Joy of Reading

Listening vs Reading books is not a very difficult question for me.

I found listening the book a bit hard because :

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1. You have to be very attentive all the time. If one line is missed during the listening you missed the flow of book.

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2. Sometime accent of speaker is not clear or different from our usual one.
3. Through reading you can feel the essence of book and you can feel the character it’s like watching a movie.

May be listening a book can help to non readers but if you love books I think reading is better way to take feel of it.

This post is written for Indispire topic “Listening vs Reading a book”

Mrs Funnybones: She’s just like You and a lot like Me

Yes, She is like me. The book is the collection of her daily journal entries. Mostly her funny moments with the family including her mother, son (called her Prodigal son in book), daughter (baby), husband (Man of the house) and servant (desi Jeeves).

Unfortunately, I have read “Legend of Laxmi Prasad” before this book, which is not as good as this one. She writes non fiction better than fiction, it’s understandable as it is hard to write about the things which is not relevant to you.

There are few incidences mentioned in the book that I can relate with, like I also found Karva Chauth most overrated festival and a bit filmy, I also don’t believe in magical black thread, magical godmen, don’t think much about dresses while going out etc etc.

She is good with sarcasm. It is a fun book and good for light reading.

Loved these lines :

1. There are 146 countries above us where the men have longer lifespans, and the biggest blow is that even with four wives who don’t fast for them, the Arab men outlive our good old Indian dudes.
2. A wise woman keeps her hands firmly in her pockets and does not accidentally unzip anything, including her mouth.
3. I misfit here, like most women that enter families which are so different from theirs.
4. Our little satellite reached Mars because it was called MOM. If it was called DAD, it would still be circling the Earth, lost, but not willing to ask for directions.
5. Life is full of contradictions. We crave security and independence in equal measures.

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